Community Question: How can someone begin to heal when family members dismiss or minimize their feelings.

Question Submitted: How can someone begin to heal when family members dismiss or minimize their feelings?

their feelings? or your feelings? I am going to meet this with both frames since I am not sure— becayse if they’re dismissing yours, they dismiss their own.

What we’re really scared of is our trust in saying NO. Knowing we’ll say no when it is a no for us — without dismissing the no. The little girl in you needs to know you’ll say no and stand by your no and not let her down when she’s scared. Protecting her with the no. Self-leading. Honoring your feelings may hurt another’s unintentionally yet when you open the space with intention, clear and clean intention, whether they meet you there or not , hold the vision and the ground of what you’re bringing forth and know what you’re not available for. meet them with that. how you respond is the anchor so anchor the energy and what i liek to envision is the values veil, as if there’s a veil between you that holds your values ad if you and the family dont hold same values,thats okay—

Boundaries. And practicing standing by your side. Returning to your center and not moving from what you say. Your little girl needs to feel safe and if the family environment doesn’t feel safe and brings up childhood wounding, her heart hurts… and you need to guard it. Not to create separation yet more so to communicate, firmly, as to what you’re available for and what you’re not — without expecting them to hear you. And at times, that communication is with yourself and standing in your NO. NO, I am not available for x. NO, I will not minimize or silence what I feel to keep anyone comfortable or keep the peace. etc. and also, my invitation is to see where you are dismissing or minimizing your feelings and explore that with love and gentleness. Where are you allowing yourself / available to dismiss and minimize.